A Journey to Self-acceptance and Broadway Stardom

There’s a long and poignant story behind the T-shirt that Ari’el Stachel often wears these days. It says, in Hebrew letters, “Totzeret Teman” (Product of Yemen). The unexpected juxtaposition of two cultures -- Israeli and Arab -- is as fascinating and complex as Stachel himself.

Stachel, 26, is an actor and singer now making his Broadway debut in The Band’s Visit, a charming new musical starring Tony Shalhoub (Monk) and the rising star Katrina Lenk. The play, which opened last week to rave reviews, is based on the 2007 award-winning Israeli movie about an Egyptian police band stranded in a tiny (and fictional) Israeli village in the Negev desert. Stachel plays Haled, an Egyptian trumpeter, who like his fellow band mates quietly connects with his Jewish hosts during a long night of eating, flirting, roller-skating (at a disco, no less) and, of course, music-making.

The show’s theme of how Arabs and Jews come to terms with each other is perhaps not nearly as dramatic as Stachel’s own journey of coming to terms with himself. The tall, dark-skinned performer spent nearly a third of his life telling people he was half African-American.

In fact, Stachel is the California-born son of an Israeli-Yemeni father and an Ashkenazi (Eastern European) mother from New York. “My father’s parents came to Israel in the 1950s," he explained, “and my dad was born in an immigrant absorption tent city near the town of Hadera. When he was 24, he followed a woman he’d met on a kibbutz to the U.S., and ended up in California – where he met my mom while they were Israeli folk dancing. He was the only one in his family to leave Israel.”

The family name in Yemen was Garama, but became Yeshayahu in Israel. Stachel’s parents divorced when he was young, and he opted to use his mother’s Ashkenazic last name.

“It was just one of the many ways I avoided my identity," he said ruefully.

That struggle began in a Jewish day school in Berkeley, where Stachel was raised. “In third grade, someone told me I was too black to be Jewish. In sixth grade, I switched to a public school, with maybe nine students of color there out of 900. I started to see that I was perceived as black, so I recreated my identity as an African-American; all my friends were black."

Stachel smiled as he recalled visiting his best buddy’s home, where “his grandmother would treat me like a black kid, cooking me soul food. For the first time, I felt like I was part of a community without any reservation. I felt most comfortable and accepted through this African-American grandmother."

By high school, said Stachel, “I started avoiding being seen in public with my father. I didn’t want to be seen with somebody who looked like an Arab."

Only in private did the conflicted teenager embrace his heritage, listening to Israeli Yemeni singer Tsion Golan, eating his favorite food – the Yemeni Israeli pastry jachnun -- and often visiting his family in Israel for a month at a time. As a baby, his first word was “balon” (Hebrew for balloon).

“Hebrew was spoken exclusively in my father’s house, he only spoke with his new partner in Hebrew, which is where my ‘fluent-adjacency’ comes from," he said.

Stachel didn’t have a bar mitzvah in California, but “I was in Israel during the last week of my 13th year, and my uncle, who is more religious, was dismayed. He set up a Yemeni bar mitzvah for me four days before I turned 14!”

The deep love Stachel had for his family made his continuing disavowal of their backgrounds impossible to reconcile. “I knew I wanted to do something public, either as an NBA player or an actor, and I remember looking at myself in the mirror in eighth grade and thinking, ‘How on earth can I do that and still pretend that I’m not Middle Eastern?’”

At 15, realizing he wouldn’t make it in pro basketball, Stachel’s mother urged him to try out for his school musical. “I got the role, in which I sang happy birthday to a pear, and my mom said, ‘You know, you have a voice!’” Stachel switched to an arts school, honed his talents, and moved to New York in 2009 to attend NYU’s musical theater program.

The watershed moment in both Stachel’s personal and professional lives came when he first read the script for The Band’s Visit in 2015, which opened Off Broadway the following year. Reading the character of Haled, the handsome Egyptian musician who’s obsessed with the jazz trumpeter Chet Baker, “I knew immediately that it needed to be my role."

It took the show’s creative team seven auditions by Stachel over nine months to arrive at the same conclusion. There were moments of deep doubt and frustration, Stachel admitted. “Looking at my parents, seeing where I come from, there was this feeling that there’s no way my dreams are ever going to come true. But over the course of those nine months, I started to believe in myself, and by the final audition, it was just mine.”

The Atlantic Theater Company's production of The Band's Visit, with music and lyrics by David Yazbek (Women on the Verge of a Nervous Breakdown, The Full Monty) and book by Itamar Moses (another son of Israeli parents), earned rave reviews. And for Stachel, who garnered Drama Desk and Lucille Lortel Award nominations for “best featured actor in a musical,” it changed everything.

“The role allows me to exist as myself, proudly, as a Middle Eastern person," Stachel said. “For eight or ten years of my life, I couldn’t tell people I was of Yemeni descent without breaking into a cold sweat. Now, because of the visibility of this role, because people are accepting us with open arms, I can be myself. I get to wear this baseball cap [offstage] which says ‘shalom, salaam, and peace.' I feel like I straddle all these identities."

During weeks of previews on Broadway, Stachel said the play has attracted sold-out audiences and international attention. “I’m able to connect with young kids in the Middle East on Twitter and Instagram who tell me they’re feeling represented," he said. "A Palestinian girl came to the show, ran past the gate afterwards and hugged me, saying the same thing."

As for the future of this Yemeni-Ashkenazi-Jewish-Californian-American actor, Stachel is eager to tell his personal story, and those of others. “My experience of the world was shaped very much by the way I looked”, he said. “Now I feel that having this distinctive identity gives me an opportunity to shed light on the diverse lives of Middle Eastern people. I feel like I have a birthright to play these roles."

(This article was first published by JTA, at https://www.jta.org).

(For tickets to The Band’s Visit, go to https://thebandsvisitmusical.com).