This Video Perfectly Sums Up Why Weddings Are So Damn Expensive

It may seem unfair, but there's a reasonable explanation.

The prices of wedding vendors are notoriously hard to gauge -- many do not list costs on their websites. On top of that, it's hard for engaged couples to grasp what's reasonable and what's not when it comes to pricing.

In a new video, Johnny Harris -- a multimedia journalist at Vox and also a wedding videographer in Washington D.C. -- explains why weddings are so expensive and what brides- and grooms-to-be can do to get fairer prices. 

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Some couples may be surprised to learn that vendors will charge more for weddings than a different event of the same size. This is called the "wedding markup." 

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And while it may not seem fair on the surface, there is a reasonable explanation. 

"Corporate flowers, for example, there's probably going to be direction but maybe there's a little bit more flexibility," wedding planner Karson Butler said. "Whereas a bride has dreamt of certain flowers and she's been pinning it and she wants to talk to the florist multiple times about the bouquet and the ribbon treatment and the fact that her grandmother's brooch is going to be on that bouquet."

Of course there are dishonorable people in any industry, but for the most part, wedding professionals aren't trying to rip you off. 

"There's a lot of time and energy spent on those flowers," Butler said. "And that's going to be reflected in the cost." 

So how do you get the best price from your vendors? Harris recommends demanding a price range before you hear their sales pitch. 

"Vendors might hate it, but it's fair," he said. 

Watch the video above to learn more.

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Best Ways To Save On Your Wedding Budget
Create A Budget And Stick To It(01 of10)
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The most important tip cited by many wedding experts is to create a budget plan before you purchase anything -- and stick to it. Wedding experts Susan Southerland and Samantha Goldberg agreed that couples need to sit down and figure out exactly what their wedding "must-haves" are and how much they want to spend. "If they don't have a level head and they haven't started thinking, 'Here's what I can spend without getting into trouble,' they wind up going with their heart and not sticking to it," Southerland said. And, if you follow your budget, you shouldn't have any problems with overspending. "If they have a blueprint, there won't be a reason to feel like they're going to go over, because they've been on this plan the entire time," Goldberg said (download her wedding budget tracker here).
Cut The Guest List(02 of10)
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By cutting the guest list, you can save exponentially on things like flowers, tables, and square footage, said wedding planner Marcy Blum. You'll have a better event if you invite fewer guests, rather than eliminating services like an open bar and proper facilities. "It would be much better to cut the guest list than cut the wait staff. There's no point in doing something halfway," Blum said.
Buy Discounted Gift Cards(03 of10)
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Money-saving expert Kendal Perez offered this little-known tip: buy used gift cards from stores you'd like to purchase wedding items from at GiftCardGranny.com. When shoppers receive a gift card to a store they don't like, they can sell the card on GiftCardGranny.com for less than face value -- meaning you can buy the card and save up to 30 percent. For example, there are cards available from 1-800 Flowers, Tiffany, and wedding dress retailers like J. Crew. "It’s a different way to save money without having to shop sales, but if you can couple that with something on sale then you’re getting even more savings," Perez said.
Don't Go Crazy With Rental Items(04 of10)
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Matthew Robbins, author of "Matthew Robinns' Inspired Weddings," cautioned couples against renting too many fancy items, and instead recommended mixing in just a few special pieces with items already included in your venue. For example, rent a unique water or champagne glass to add something special to the table, or use a simple cloth from the venue for the tables and rent a beautiful overlay or runner to dress things up. "Choose wisely and consider rental items as a special accent to embellish what your venue provides," Robbins said. (credit:Thuss + Farrell)
Avoid Holidays(05 of10)
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Holidays are more expensive, plain and simple, said wedding planner Yifat Oren. "You might think it's easier for people to get time off work, but they'll be spending more money all around on travel and accommodations, not to mention the challenges with availability during high season times," she said. (credit:Shutterstock)
Get On Your Vendors' Mailing And Social Media Lists(06 of10)
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Sign up for all your potential vendors' email lists and follow them on social media in order to get the first scoop on deals, contests, and freebies, said Sharon Naylor, wedding expert and author of "The Bride's Guide To Freebies." You'll hear about clearance sales, "Pin It To Win It" contests on Pinterest, trunk shows and more deals you wouldn't have known about otherwise. "If you’re following them and keeping a good eye on them, you can cash in on some great stuff," Naylor said. (credit:Alamy)
Do What YOU Want, Not What People Expect(07 of10)
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Don't feel like you need to spend money on things you don't really need but feel like you have to have, said money-saving expert Kendal Perez. Skip wedding traditions that seem necessary, like programs and favors. "I don’t think I've ever kept a wedding favor. Those things are unnecessary expenses," Perez said. "Make sure you're planning the party you want and you're not including things just because everyone includes them."
Maintain A Good Relationship With Your Vendors(08 of10)
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Vendors will sometimes give discounts to clients they enjoyed working with and, if you ask, may agree to give you freebies or substitutions, said wedding expert Sharon Naylor. But don't forget to be nice! "You cannot be a steamroller and you can't demand it and you can't say, 'Well, I heard you gave my friend a free [food] station so what am I going to get?'" Naylor said. "When vendors don't like you you're not going to get as many freebies." (credit:Shutterstock)
Don't Be Afraid To Explore Alternative Party Formats(09 of10)
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There's no rule that you must have a pricey dinner or cocktail hour for all of your guests, said wedding planner Xochtil Gonzalez. As long as you give guests something to eat and drink, that constitutes a party. Hire a food truck or consider holding a brunch on a Sunday afternoon. "If you know you have a fun crowd that’s going to dance no matter what if the music’s good and they’ve had a couple drinks, there’s no reason to force yourself to just have a nighttime party," Gonzalez said. (credit:Shutterstock)
Register With Your Vendors(10 of10)
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Instead of registering for kitchen supplies you don't really need, wedding planner Samantha Goldberg said you can actually register for wedding items such as a videographer or upgraded room on your honeymoon. Many vendors will make cards you can put in your invitations explaining your request to your guests. "You'd be surprised -- everyone pitches in here and there and suddenly you now have this money to have something you thought you wanted but weren't able to afford," Goldberg said.

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