02/12/2013 12:16 pm ET

Single Women: Looking For Love? Don't Make These Dating Mistakes (VIDEO)

Before you can find someone to share your life with, says author, inspirational speaker, and relationship expert Iyanla Vanzant, you must love you first. She believes you have to make yourself the priority in order to set the stage and "issue the invitation that will draw other people in to love you."

And the first step toward loving yourself? Iyanla says it's "looking at everything about you and being okay with it." And she means everything!

In this video, Iyanla reveals the top three mistakes single women make when they're looking for love.

Tune in to "Iyanla: Fix My Life" on OWN, in which Iyanla goes behind closed doors and inside people's lives for emotional, riveting conversations.