If you spend time around young kids, you've probably heard Disney's Frozen soundtrack more times than you can count. But have you ever really listened to the lyrics of "Let It Go," the mega-hit song from that film? Elsa, the feisty heroine of the story, sings: "Let it go, let it go/ Can't hold it back anymore. Let it go, let it go/ Turn away and slam the door."
If you're going to survive the inevitable challenges, hurts, and tough decisions you'll face during a divorce, you'd be wise to take Elsa's advice. Here are 6 things you'll have to "let go" if you want to move forward with your life:
- People who don't support you. There's an old saying: "If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem." When you go through difficult times, you find out who's really in your corner. Some friends and relatives who you thought would always be there for you will end up abandoning you. Others, including some folks you don't think of as part of your inner circle, will step up and offer astonishing amounts of support, kindness and sage advice. Until you experience tough times, you really don't know who will fall into which camp. Once it becomes clear that a particular person just isn't there for you (or may even be working against you), you need to let them go. Concentrate on keeping the positive people in your life and actively seek out new friends who share your interests and sensibilities. (And remember, friendship is a 2-way proposition. Make sure you reach out to those around you who need a helping hand).
Alexander Graham Bell once said: "When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."
Don't waste time focusing on what's behind you. Take Elsa's advice: turn away and slam the door. You'll find a new door in front of you -- the door that leads to your future happy life. Don't be afraid to open it!