In the November issue of Bottom Line Personal magazine, I discussed how to avoid the most common mistakes that Internet daters between their 40's to 60's make that result in either a bad experience with online dating or getting stuck in the serial dating syndrome.
Here are 10 tips to consider while looking for love online.
Let's start with the flawed profile.
- Don't focus on your life story. Too often, I see profiles that resemble a novel rather than a brief peek at your personality. The word count is so high that it's a huge turn-off to daters. When in doubt, keep your profile short and don't focus on your entire life story.
Let's continue with faulty follow-up.
- Instant chemistry isn't everything. When I work with both single men and women, it's hard to get them to look past the photos. Sure we all have a "type." Some prefer blondes, others brunettes. But if you don't have instant email chemistry, don't toss your online date away. Many men just aren't computer savvy and don't "give good emails." Hop on a phone call to see if there's phone chemistry. If so, put a date on the calendar. It's time to meet in-real-life.
At the end of the digital day, millions of singles are flocking to online dating sites. You may be looking for the needle in the haystack, but you've got a big digital playground to play in.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
Julie Spira is an online dating expert and relationship coach. She's the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking or Love Online. Julie creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt newsletter, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter, and like her at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.